#1 Consistency-Have you ever moved and had one or more of your
kids freak out? Pass through a phase that was just unreasonable?
I just did. My two year old was on his worst behavior for weeks.
Now put yourself in the shoes of your adopted child. Where there
were ten children sleeping in the room with them before, now
there are none. The language, the food, the culture, the
clothing, the climate - everything is changing for them. These
changes are traumatizing. An Au Pair can keep some consistency
for your newly adopted child by sharing with them the same
culture they just came from. Your child will have a better chance
at adjusting slowly into their new circumstance.
#2 Bilingual Opportunity- Did you know it takes a child less than
six months to lose their native language in a new country? This
problem makes for real issues when you want to call grandma back
home but you can't even speak her language anymore. It is also a
problem for children who would otherwise been bilingual and have
had a head start at competing in the global marketplace.
Retaining a language is much easier than learning it again,
especially when the language is introduced later in life. Studies
have shown it is much easier for a child to pick up a language
than an adult. Did you also know studies have showninfants and
children will learn much faster from human interaction than any
educational DVD? An Au Pair makes the dream of having a bilingual
child a reality.
#3 Builds Confidence- Conversations at school will come up where
your child may need to explain their family tree, or cultural
background or skin color and so on, wouldn't it be nice if they
could answer these questions? The Adoption Institute has shown
one of thechallenges with cross-cultural matchesis the adopted
child will struggle with their identity, which may cause a lack
of confidence and depression. An Au Pair is not only from their
native culture but is proud of their culture. An adopted child
would not need to apologize for their different identity. An Au
Pair and the adopted child they care for will celebrate their
differences together. What a great way to start out.
#4 Broader Perspective-Did you know in Ukraine the children lay
on the ground when they see a dog? While very different if done
in the United States, in Ukraine the child is protecting
themselves from rabid dogs that roam their cities. For some
reason it is human nature to fear and then dislike something if
it is different. Different behaviors your adopted child may have
can cause a rift between you instead of the closeness you hope
for. An Au Pair will teach you about their differences and with
that mutual understanding you will increase your cultural
awareness and fear will not be an issue.
#5 Enriched Family Relationships- Au Pairs can give your child
something you cannot provide for them, a chance at understanding
their own unique heritage. Knowing this will strengthen ties with
you, your child and the Au Pair. Bringing in an Au Pair will
create a cultural immersion experience that benefits you and your
child for a lifetime.
Go Au Pair is one of the original Au Pair Program sponsors
designated by the department of State in 1989. There are Go Au
Pair representatives in over 50 countries on six different
continents and in more than 100 American cities. Their company
headquarters is in Salt Lake City, Utah.
If you're interested in hosting an Au Pair from Go Au Pair, Email
or Call Toll
Adoption Services International unites loving US families with
Ukrainian children. We provide a unique combination of
professional, individualized, quality service (including a
maximum guaranteed adoption fee), personal adoption experience,
affordable local cost and 20 years Ukrainian experience.
If you or someone you love would like to expand your family,
provide a permanent home for a needy orphaned child, welcome a
sibling for an existing child or discover an alternative for
infertility treatments - contact us to learn more about Ukrainian
adoption, Adoption Services International can help.
The Ukrainian Adoption Process: Informational Meeting
Wednesday, November 28, 2012 7:00-8:00PM
Location: Wellness Rocks: 133 Rupell Road, Clinton, New Jersey