Thursday, April 25, 2013

18 Things Never to Say to Adoptive Parents

Oh the crazy insensitive things people say to adoptive parents!



18 Things Never to Say to Adoptive Parents






They don't mean to be, but some friends and family can be
very insensitive about the subject of adoption
. I now
have several friends who have chosen to start or expand their
family this way and they often find themselves rolling their eyes
at what people say. It's as though they feel the right to ask
anything that comes to mind when they learn you have an adopted
child. The most common questions: "What happened to his real
parents?" As if you aren't the real parents. Or: "Where
is he from?" Like every adopted baby must be from some exotic,
Angelina Jolie-approved locale. But some comments and queries are
even more rude and ridiculous. Check out the 18
things you should never say to parents who have
adopted
.


  1. Does it bother you he won't ever look like you?

  2. Be honest, do you love your biological kids more?

  3. Why did they give her up? Is she sick?

  4. Did you ever think about giving him back if something's
    wrong?

  5. Wow, guess this is your good deed for the year!

  6. Don't you want children of your own?

  7. He's probably going to have abandonment issues.

  8. What if the parents come back for him?

  9. What is he?

  10. Why didn't you get a kid from America?

  11. Did you ever think about getting a black market baby instead
    of dealing with all this red tape?

  12. Did you adopt because you can't have any?

  13. When are you going to tell her she's adopted?

  14. Do your other kids know she's not the same?

  15. She is so lucky you took her in!

  16. Aren't you worried his parents passed on some illness or
    something?

  17. This is so great of you. You know, we thought about taking
    one of those poor children home during our vacay to the islands.

  18. Hey, you are pulling an Angelina!

What are rude things have people said to parents who've
adopted?

Image via "http://www.flickr.com/photos/matthewfane/3835101465/" target=
"_blank">mrgreen09
/Flickr

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If you or someone you love would like to expand your family,
provide a permanent home for a needy orphaned child, welcome a
sibling for an existing child or discover an alternative for
infertility treatments - contact us to learn more about Ukrainian
adoption, Adoption Services International can help.

Adoption Services International has extensive experience making
the process as smooth as possible, from the very beginning of
your decision to adopt, through bringing your adopted child home
to the US. Adoption Services International unites loving US
families with Ukrainian children. We provide a unique
professional, individualized, quality (including a maximum
guaranteed adoption fee), personal adoption experience, at
affordable cost and 20 years Ukrainian experience.


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"mailto:info@asi-adoption.com">info@asi-adoption.com


908-444-0999


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Upcoming Events:

Free Presentation: Ukraine is Not Russia!

Ukrainian International Adoption: Opportunity, Challenges and
Process

Thursday, April 25, 2013; 6:00-8:00 pm

Califon Book Shop, 72 Main Street, Califon, NJ 07830


Free Presentation and Get Together: Experiences and
Information on Ukrainian Adoption


Sunday, June 2, 2013, 2:00-4:00 pm


Washington Township, NJ

Casual information session and opportunity for adoptive parents
to discuss their personal experiences. Plenty of time for
questions and answers, mingling and a chance to meet the
children. Bilingual babysitting and light refreshments will be
provided. Bring the whole family! Registration is required.

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Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Event: Children's Festival of Russian Culture: Fun Event for Adoptive Families in the NYC Area - Apr 27 @ 3:30pm

RACH-C's 7th Annual Children's Festival of Russian
Culture
returns to the "http://www.symphonyspace.org/" target="_blank" title=
"Peter Norton Symphony Space">Peter Norton Symphony Space
.
This year, half a dozen wonderful Children's Ensembles from NYC
Boroughs, Houston, Boston and Canada, are expected to grace the
Peter Norton Stage. Performances will feature classic music and
dances reaching back many generations from Russia, Ukraine and
other locations of the former Soviet Republic.

target="_blank" title="Children's Festival 2012">2012, the first
time the "Children's Festival" was held there
, resulted in a
well attended, well received, fun filled afternoon with
exceptionally talented children's groups from as far as Canada.
RACH-C is very
gratified to have won the " "http://rach-c.org/bodyevents/events2012#feb17" target=
"_blank">Silver Archer
" Award for our work with earlier
festivals and we are confident that this year's performances will
also be prize winners.

This year the theme of the festival is "Proud to be
Russian-American
," and we are privileged to be included
in the celebration of "Russian American History Month in New York
State".


Saturday April 27, 2013 - Curtain Time: 3:30 PM


Tickets: $20 (in advance) / $15 (Students/Seniors) / $25 (at the
door)


Peter Norton Symphony Space Theater

2537 Broadway at 95th Street

New York, NY 10025


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alt="logo-rachc_pp">

Russian American Cultural Heritage Center is a
charitable and educational 501 C 3 not-for-profit organization,
dedicated to collecting, preserving, and disseminating the best
traditions, the history, the culture and the heritage of Russian
Americans, and to sharing them with their friends and neighbors.

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If you or someone you love would like to expand your family,
provide a permanent home for a needy orphaned child, welcome a
sibling for an existing child or discover an alternative for
infertility treatments - contact us to learn more about Ukrainian
adoption, Adoption Services International can help.

Adoption Services International has extensive experience making
the process as smooth as possible, from the very beginning of
your decision to adopt, through bringing your adopted child home
to the US. Adoption Services International unites loving US
families with Ukrainian children. We provide a unique
professional, individualized, quality (including a maximum
guaranteed adoption fee), personal adoption experience, at
affordable cost and 20 years Ukrainian experience.


"http://www.adoptionservicesinternational.com/">www.adoptionservicesinternational.com


"mailto:info@asi-adoption.com">info@asi-adoption.com


908-444-0999


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Upcoming Events:

Free Presentation: Ukraine is Not Russia!

Ukrainian International Adoption: Opportunity, Challenges and
Process

Thursday, April 25, 2013; 6:00-8:00 pm

Califon Book Shop, 72 Main Street, Califon, NJ 07830


Free Presentation and Get Together: Experiences and
Information on Ukrainian Adoption


Sunday, June 2, 2013, 2:00-4:00 pm


Washington Township, NJ

Casual information session and opportunity for adoptive parents
to discuss their personal experiences. Plenty of time for
questions and answers, mingling and a chance to meet the
children. Bilingual babysitting and light refreshments will be
provided. Bring the whole family! Registration is required.

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Ukrainian Adoption Helps Prevent Falling in Love With A Photo, Rather Than the Whole Child


This is such a great article. One of the reasons I like Ukrainian
adoption is that you are not provided a referral and a photos you
fall in love with before you travel. You choose your child from
the government database of children available for international
adoption based not just on a photo but medical and social
history.



Even still, I think every adoptive parent experiences these
feelings to some degree throughout and after the adoption
process.



Falling in Love with a Fantasy Child

By "http://www.theadoptionmagazine.com/author/sharla/" title=
"sharla" class="fn n">sharla
Published in
Adoption Magazine

During the wait. Adoption usually involves
waiting. Some wait for months. Some wait for years. Some wait for
decades. During all that time spent waiting, it is only natural
that your brain begins to imagine this fantasy child, what he or
she will look like, what being a parent will feel like, what this
child will be like. Before long, no matter how hard you try not
to create a fantasy child in your brain, no matter how hard you
try not to get too excited, human nature has taken over and you
have an image of who this child is.

Preconception. And then the day comes when this
maybe child becomes a probably child. For some, that day is the
day they are chosen by a prospective birth mother. For others,
that day is the day that an official referral arrives for an
actual child, one with an actual picture. Suddenly, this child
isn't just a figment of your imagination. By holding their
picture in your hand or watching their movement on an ultrasound
screen, this child goes from a hope you barely dare whisper to a
person you love instantly. You begin to have preconceptions based
on what they look like, what their expression is, even what they
are wearing, as to what their personality will be.

Falling in love. You spend hours dreaming about
your child. Even though you know you should try not to have
expectations about what they will be like, what their personality
is or how they will relate to you, it's next to impossible not to
have preconceived notions. After all those years of anticipation,
you can't help but fall completely in love with this child who
you already feel as if you know.

Reality hits. In rare cases, the flesh and bone
child may live up to your fantasy child, but most of the time,
there is a disconnect between the two. The child you imagined
would surely love you back right away (even if you know logically
that this is not likely) and doesn't pull away from you, spit at
you, cry all night, or reject you. Not all cases of reality are
as shocking as raging or attachment issues. Perhaps the child you
pictured was quiet and the child you have turns out to be
extremely outgoing and active. That's not necessarily a bad
thing, but it is an adjustment from what you had prepared for.

Grieving the child that wasn't. The discrepancy
between the fantasy child or fantasy adoption and the reality can
be one of the contributing factor of "http://www.theadoptionmagazine.com/2012/04/26/post-adoption-depression/"
target="_blank">post adoption depression
. This is one of the
reasons why it is so important to acknowledge the loss of this
imagined child or imagined life and grieve for that fantasy.

Accepting what is. Dreaming about adopting is
very different from the reality of adopting. It is only after
grieving for the child that wasn't that you can truly begin to
attach to the child that is.

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Event: Casual Ukrainian Adoption Information Session and Ukrainian Adoptive Families Networking - Jun 2 @ 2:00pm

Casual Ukrainian Adoption Information Session and
Ukrainian Adoptive Families Networking

If you have ever considered adoption, this is a wonderful
opportunity to learn more about the Ukrainian adoption program
and meet local NJ families that have adopted and are in the
process of adopting from Ukraine.

With over thousands Caucasian children available for
international adoption, Ukraine is a sizable source of adopted
children in the US, yet many parents considering adoption have
never heard about this European adoption program. There are many
unique characteristics of Ukrainian adoption that are very
different from most international and domestic adoptions.
Ukrainian adoptions generally take less than a year, adoptive
parents choose their child or children based on medical history,
there is no age limit for older parents and it is affordable in
comparison to other programs. Children are generally available
from age 5 and older.

Come learn more about this adoption opportunity at this casual
information session. Susan Kibler, adoptive Mom and Ukrainian
Adoption Specialist will provide information about Adoption
Services International's Ukrainian adoption services, as well as
the unique challenges and opportunities that international
adoption provides for both children and their adoptive parents.

Adoptive parents will have the opportunity to discuss their
personal experiences, and there will be plenty of time for
questions and answers, mingling and a chance to meet the
children.

Bilingual babysitting and light refreshments will be provided.
Bring the whole family! Registration is required.

Details:


Join Us: Sunday, June 2, 2013 from 2:00 - 4:00pm

Location: United Methodist Church, 116 East Washington Ave.
Washington, NJ 07882

To find out more visit us at: "http://www.adoptionservicesinternational.com">www.adoptionservicesinternational.com
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Space is limited. Please resister in advance:
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Saturday, April 20, 2013

EU Considers Landmark Political Association With Ukraine: Great News for Ukrainian Adopted Children



As the world has become more international, terrorist events
and a bad economy have led to protectionist measures. It is
hard to get work and educational visas for all countries. It
would be a great gift for our Ukrainian adopted children if
they could travel, work and go to schools freely throughout
Europe.


Also the benefit to Ukraine can not be underestimated. It would
be a great step, financially and politically.


by Deutche Welle:


The European Parliament has been handed a new report looking at
Ukraine, which could ultimately pave the way to a landmark
political association and free trade agreement with the
European Union.

European Parliament envoys on Thursday (18.04.2013) said
efforts to reach out to Ukraine in the buildup to Kiev's
landmark association deal with Brussels were seeing some
progress, but that challenges lie ahead.

Pat Cox, the European Parliament's envoy and former
president, and former Polish president, Aleksander
Kwasniewski, presented the report on Ukraine to the European
Parliament. The report is crucial for the decision to move
ahead with a planned association agreement with Ukraine,
which includes provisions for a broad free trade deal. The
agreements have been on hold for months due to the domestic
political situation in Ukraine.

Observers rate the amnesty issued to former Interior Minister
Yuriy Lutsenko, a close ally of jailed former Prime Minister
Yulia Tymoshenko, as particularly favorable. It was in fact
one of the main goals of the Cox-Kwasniewski mission, Valeriy
Tschalyi of Kiev's Razumkov Center told Deutsche Welle.

In early April, President Viktor Yanukovych signed a decree
pardoning six people, including Lutsenko and Ukraine's former
environment minister Georgy Filipchuk. The EU had repeatedly
criticized selective justice against opposition politicians,
branding it one of the main hurdles to signing the accords
with Ukraine.

Important step forward

Commissioned by the European Parliament, Cox and Kwasniewski
visited Ukraine numerous times over the past months. Elmar
Brok, chairman of the European Parliament Committee on
Foreign Affairs, says the outcome is favorable, adding that
he expects more from the government in Kyiv.

"I am disappointed in the Ukrainian government's attitude. It
is conducting the process of harmonization with the EU much
too slowly", he told DW, saying that selective justice must
disappear and electoral laws and certain criminal law
regulations must be rewritten. Provisions regulating the
office of the attorney general in particular do not
correspond with European standards, Brok said, underscoring
that the Cox-Kwasniewski mission might be helpful concerning
these issues. Their mandate is scheduled to be extended and
linked to these tasks.

European politicians expect more from Ukraine, and Andreas
Umland, a German political scientist, comes to the same
conclusion. Lutsenko's pardon helped clear the air, however,
he says. Over the past few months, the West saw nothing but
negative signals from Kyiv, including irregularities in
parliamentary elections, new criminal proceedings against
Tymoshenko and, in March, a court order stripped her lawyer,
Sergei Vlasenko, of his mandate in parliament. "If Tymoshenko
is set free now, too, then there will probably be a positive
decision by the European Commission in May," Umland says.

Time is short

May is the deadline, according to the EU plan, for Ukraine to
fulfil its requirements. Then, the political association and
free trade deal with the European Union could be signed by
the end of the year.

Volodymyr Fesenko of the Penta Center for Political Studies
in Kyiv is skeptical. He assumes Tymoshenko will not be
pardoned, and expects electoral law reforms to fail. "The
current relationship between the opposition and the majority
in parliament does not allow for a compromise on such complex
issues," Fesenko told DW.

It is not clear how the EU will react if Tymoshenko is not
set free and the other conditions are not met. Possibly,
Fesenko says, the planned free trade accord will be separated
from the question of EU association. In that case, contested
political issues could be ignored for the time being.

Fesenko can also imagine both accords being signed this year.
The ratification process that the agreements must go through
in EU member states would keep the pressure on the Ukrainian
leadership, he said.

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provide a permanent home for a needy orphaned child, welcome
a sibling for an existing child or discover an alternative
for infertility treatments - contact us to learn more about
Ukrainian adoption, Adoption Services International can help.

Adoption Services International has extensive experience
making the process as smooth as possible, from the very
beginning of your decision to adopt, through bringing your
adopted child home to the US. Adoption Services International
unites loving US families with Ukrainian children. We provide
a unique professional, individualized, quality (including a
maximum guaranteed adoption fee), personal adoption
experience, at affordable cost and 20 years Ukrainian
experience.


"http://www.adoptionservicesinternational.com/">www.adoptionservicesinternational.com


"mailto:info@asi-adoption.com">info@asi-adoption.com


908-444-0999


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Upcoming
Events:

Free Presentation: Ukraine is Not Russia!

Ukrainian International Adoption: Opportunity, Challenges and
Process

Thursday, April 25, 2013; 6:00-8:00 pm

Califon Book Shop, 72 Main Street, Califon, NJ 07830


Free Presentation and Get Together: Experiences and
Information on Ukrainian Adoption


Sunday, June 2, 2013, 2:00-4:00 pm


Washington Township, NJ (More details to come.)


An opportunity to learn more about Ukrainian adoption and
meet adoptive parents and their families.


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Wednesday, April 17, 2013

How To Talk With Your Children About the Boston Bombings


"http://www.babble.com/mom/how-will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-the-boston-bombings/">
Excellent article on how to speak with your children about
the Boston bombings. Sad that we so often need to address this
topic.



"http://www.babble.com/mom/how-will-you-talk-to-your-kids-about-the-boston-bombings/">
Expert Advice: Talking to Your Kids About the Boston Bombings

By "http://www.babble.com/contributor/joslyngray/" title=
"Posts by joslyngray">joslyngray

I really can't believe I'm writing this post. I feel like
target="_blank">I just wrote it four months ago, after the
tragedy in Newtown, Connecticut. But with the realization that I
can do almost nothing from several states away to help the people
of Boston, I hope that I can at least help parents around the
country in deciding how to talk to their kids about what happened
at the Boston Marathon. Parent educator and psychotherapist
Dr.
Elaine Heffner
, LCSW, Ed.D., offered some helpful advice this
morning in a phone interview.

At first, I thought that kids might not react as strongly to this
news story as they did to the Sandy Hook Elementary School
shootings, because that involved a lot of children in a place
that's supposed to be safe. However, as this story unfolds, we
know that, in fact, "http://www.bostonglobe.com/metro/2013/04/15/three-killed-more-than-injured-marathon-blast/QQOiYNU2n1vt1Xul3BXVsL/story.html"
target="_blank">many children were directly affected
. Public
schools are closed in Boston on the day of the Boston Marathon,
so many children were there to cheer on the runners. Many
children were injured; eight-year-old "http://abcnews.go.com/US/year-died-boston-marathon-waiting-greet-father/story?id=18965706#.UW1NLrXvvzw"
target="_blank">Martin Richard
died waiting to greet his
father at the finish line.

It was a marathon: a celebration of health, happiness, endurance,
community. A celebration of Boston. No matter what comes of the
investigation, no matter who is responsible, this is terrorism.

We have four kids; twin girls in sixth grade, another daughter in
third grade, and a son in first grade. I didn't talk with them
about this last night because honestly, all three of our
daughters have diagnosed anxiety disorders, and bedtime is not
the right time for a discussion like this. Our son, who has
Asperger Syndrome, tends to be very anxious too.

I didn't talk about this yet with my nine-year-old daughter and
seven-year-old son. I should have. It will come up in school
today, certainly for my third grader. Dr. Heffner concurred.

"I spoke with a dad this morning whose 10-year-old daughter
received a text, 'let's pray for the people in Boston,'" she said
to me in a phone interview. "Even little kids today walk around
with cell phones. It's a technological world, so it's very hard
to know what your children are picking up. Even if they haven't
watched the news, they're connected in other ways."

One issue holding me up on discussing it with them was knowing
what was age-appropriate. Should I even talk about it with my
seven-year-old? Can I possibly skip it altogether with my
nine-year-old? She has massive anxiety issues and she's
currently recovering from post-concussion syndrome, and I know
that this will trigger some difficulties for her.

Dr. Heffner advised me not to focus what's appropriate for their
age, but rather what's appropriate for their developmental level,
and what else is going in their lives. "There's no one-size-fits
all answer to these questions," she said. "If a child has ongoing
issues like anxiety, you probably have some resources to use in
terms of how this will impact her. But at age nine, she is going
to be getting some feedback on this. Undoubtedly it will come up
in school one way or another."

So, yes, I need to talk with my younger kids , too: both of them,
bearing in mind that they're already anxious people. I'll talk to
them after school. Conveniently, we have an appointment with our
therapist tonight, but even if we didn't, she's only a phone call
away.

Before I talk with them, I need to remember to keep my own
anxiety in check, Dr. Heffner suggests. "As parents, we have our
own anxiety," she noted. "We have anxiety about the thing that
happened, and then we have anxiety about how it will impact our
children. Our job is to not put that anxiety on our children."

Parents should start by finding out what their children already
know (or think they know) about what happened in Boston, Dr.
Heffner advised. Then, present the facts.

"You have to acknowledge that something bad happened," Dr.
Heffner said. "We can't protect children from that. They know
there are bad guys in the world. This is not something they can
go through life without confronting. Our job as parents is to be
there for them, and reassure them as much as we can, that we will
protect them.

"You have to tell them, so that they begin to develop the ability
to deal with these things on their own."

Children may not react the way we expect them to, and they may
not understand the implications of what happened, and that's
okay, said Dr. Heffner.

"It's a reflection of the way children are," she said. "They are
literal. They are focused on concrete things. They don't always
react to things exactly as we do."

On a personal note, this is a huge score for those of us with
kids on the spectrum because we know alllllll about
being literal and focusing on concrete things.

This morning, I did discuss what happened with my older
daughters. In their middle school, they watch the news. They will
hear about it. Rumors will fly. It is always better for
us to have the conversation at home rather than let them hear
garbled information from their peers. It is always better for us
to provide context, give the facts, head off rumors.

I told them what happened: that two bombs went off near the
finish line of the Boston Marathon, at a time when many, many
runners were coming through. That three people died, including an
eight-year-old boy. That as of latest reports, 145 people were
injured, some of them still in critical condition.

I answered their questions: no, we don't know who did it. We
don't know how many people are responsible. Boston police are
working with lots of other government agencies to find out who
did it. I reminded them that terrorist doesn't mean the
same thing as Muslim, but that a lot of people think it
does.

I told them that it's important to remember that yes, there are
bad people in the world, but that there are many, many more good
people than bad. I told them about people who helped, people who
ran toward the explosion, people who cleared the path for
ambulances. I told them about people who opened their homes to
strangers, even though we don't know who did this. I told them
about marathon runners who crossed the street and donated blood
after running for four hours.

What I didn't do: I didn't show them photos. I can barely handle
them myself. I saw one of a man in a wheelchair, who was missing
the lower parts of both legs. The man running alongside the
wheelchair appeared to be holding an IV. It wasn't. It was the
victim's femoral artery he was clamping shut with his fingers.

Is it important to for me, an adult, to know the truth of what
happened, the horror of it? Yes. Do my 12-year-olds need to see
that kind of thing? No.

"I think parents should always should use guidance on
what their children watch and don't watch," said Dr. Heffner,
while also reminding parents that kids with social media accounts
(or even friends with social media accounts) may be seeing more
than you think.

Especially coming on the heels of the Sandy Hook tragedy, parents
are wise to always be observant of their children's behavior.
"Observe what your child is communicating to you through their
behavior," said Dr. Heffner. "If you're seeing signs that
something is really bothering them-sleep disruptions, nail-biting
that wasn't there before-ask them what's going on."

But don't ask them about Boston right off the bat, because they
might be worried about something much closer to home;
standardized testing, softball try-outs, friend drama.

Dr. Heffner recommended opening up a conversation with "I think
you're worried about something. I see that you're having trouble
sleeping. Do you have any thoughts about what may be bothering
you?"

If your child doesn't open up, you can try digging a little bit
more. "What happened in Boston was pretty upsetting. I wonder if
you're worried about that."

Dr. Heffner, who is also the author of "http://www.amazon.com/Goodenoughmothering-Best-LCSW-Elaine-Heffner/dp/147971609X/"
target="_blank">GoodEnoughMothering
, said that
often, just talking with a parent and knowing that someone
understands, will help resolve the issue.

"No one knows a child as well as the parent," she noted. "And
parents can do a lot on their own. We live in a world where
there's a very quick assumption, that if something's wrong, you
need outside help immediately. I believe that parents have a lot
more skill and power than they think they do."

Dr. Heffner clarified that if a child's worries are interfering
with daily life, it might be time to seek some help. "Obviously,
if the worrying persists, and interferes with their functioning,
you might want to talk with somebody about it."

"The most important thing you can do is to really be in touch
with your own child," she added.

Have you talked with your kids about the bombings at the
Boston Marathon? I'd love for you to share in in the comments
what's worked for you and your family.

Read more from Joslyn on "http://www.babble.com/contributor/joslyngray/">Babble and at
her blog, stark.
raving. mad. mommy
. You can also follow Joslyn on "http://www.facebook.com/starkravingmadmommy">Facebook,
Twitter, and
"http://pinterest.com/starkravingmadm/">Pinterest.

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If you or someone you love would like to expand your family,
provide a permanent home for a needy orphaned child, welcome a
sibling for an existing child or discover an alternative for
infertility treatments - contact us to learn more about Ukrainian
adoption, Adoption Services International can help.

Adoption Services International has extensive experience making
the process as smooth as possible, from the very beginning of
your decision to adopt, through bringing your adopted child home
to the US. Adoption Services International unites loving US
families with Ukrainian children. We provide a unique
professional, individualized, quality (including a maximum
guaranteed adoption fee), personal adoption experience, at
affordable cost and 20 years Ukrainian experience.


"http://www.adoptionservicesinternational.com/">www.adoptionservicesinternational.com


"mailto:info@asi-adoption.com">info@asi-adoption.com


908-444-0999


"https://www.facebook.com/ASI.Adoption">https://www.facebook.com/ASI.Adoption


Upcoming Events:

Free Presentation: Ukraine is Not Russia!

Ukrainian International Adoption: Opportunity, Challenges and
Process

Thursday, April 25, 2013; 6:00-8:00 pm

Califon Book Shop, 72 Main Street, Califon, NJ 07830


Free Presentation and Get Together: Experiences and Information
on Ukrainian Adoption


Sunday, June 2, 2013, 2:00-4:00 pm


Washington Township, NJ (More details to come.)


An opportunity to learn more about Ukrainian adoption and meet
adoptive parents and their families.


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Ways to Safeguard Against International Child Trafficking Are Not What You Might Expect

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Yesterday on NPR was a radio piece on how the evangelical
Christian movement fueled the adoption and then very questionable
adoption practices in Guatemala, then
Ethiopia.

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Despite what you may or may not think about this movement, I
think the main points to learn from this radio program are very
important:

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1. That a giant step forward would be for the agencies IN THE US
to be held responsible for the information they provide, or fail
to provide, about children about children they are placing with
families. There are situations because of the profit motive (and
yes this applies to non-for-profits and non-governmental
organization who must also insure that they have enough funds to
run their organizations and pay employees) where the children are
taken from parents under false pretenses and are not orphans at
all. If US agencies were held responsible for the legal/social
status of the children they placed, there would be a totally new
level of scrutiny.

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In e, only the government of Ukraine may place children to
international adoptive parents in a very strict system where only
children whose birth parents have irrevocably released all rights
to the children are available.

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2. That countries like Rwanda and Ukraine that have taken the
position that the important thing is to evaluate carefully
adoptive parents and ensure a good match with a child, rather
than making the process as fast and easy for adoptive parents as
possible have not see the abuses and questionable practices as
seen in other countries.

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Tuesday, April 16, 2013

Russia Bans 18 US Officials in Retaliation: Where The Russian Adoption Ban Started

"{"type":3}">In a game of tit
for tat, Russia bans 18 US officials. I think if we want Russia
to open up their adoptions, US politicians of all colors need to
do some serious fence mending politically with Russian
officials.



As this article states: The US "Magnitsky Law infuriated Russian
authorities, and Parliament quickly passed a retaliatory measure
than banned Americans from adopting Russian children.
Russia also has banned US funding
for any non-governmental organization deemed to be engaging in
politics".



"I think that both sides showed a definite restraint because in
Washington and in Moscow there were hotheads demanding to inflate
the list to an unthinkable size," Parliament member Vyacheslav
Nikonov, who focuses on foreign affairs, was quoted as saying by
the news agency Interfax.



The ITAR-Tass news agency quoted Deputy Foreign Minister Sergei
Ryabkov as saying there also is a "closed part" of the list of
banned Americans and that the United States knows of its
existence.



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Thursday, April 11, 2013

Why The Hague Convention Would Hurt Ukraine and Ukrainian Orphans

Ukraine seeking mechanisms to control living condition of adopted
children



I strongly agree that joining the Hague convention would not be
in the interests of Ukrainian orphans or Ukraine as a country.
When Russia joined the Hague convention, the cost of an adoption
for American parents nearly doubled, and that money was going to
US agencies not locally. When Guatemala joined the Hague
convention, they almost had to shut down their adoption system
because of the addition difficult requirements the Hague
convention demands for every orphan before adoption. Neither
Ukraine nor Ukrainian orphans need any Hague related red tape,
bureaucracy and expenses. Money and time could be better
spent.



Currently Ukraine has continuous reporting requirements for
foreign adoptive parents: Registration at the nearest Ukrainian
Consulate within 30 days of arriving in the US, Annual reports on
the status of the child for the first 3 years after adoption and
once every 3 years until the child reaches 18 years of age. If
the goal is to know about Ukrainian adopted children, Ukraine
should require a visit from a social worker to the adopted
household after the child is adopted. This is called a
post-placement visit and it is paid for by the parent and
enforced by the State government. I suggest that Ukraine add a
request for a post-placement in the first 90 days after the
adoption, and that this report be filed with the nearest
Ukrainian Consulate. In this way, Ukraine would be guaranteed
information about the transition, health and location of the
adopted child at no financial expense.



Compliance with the filing requirements may also increase if the
required Registration Form and Registration Application adoptive
parents must file be available in English. Currently it is only
available in Ukrainian. Although there are samples of completed
forms in English available on the web, it can take new parents
hours to figure out these forms and may lead to incorrect
information.



The article by Oleksandra Molotkova of Press TV, Kiev follows.
Please join me in writing a supportive comment to this article.
The link is under the article.



The debate for having more control over the living conditions of
Ukrainian kids adopted abroad surfaced after a Ukrainian boy was
shot dead in the United States by his American father. After the
death of 13 year old Andrew Butler officials in Ukraine realized
- they barely know anything about the fate of nearly half of
adopted Ukrainian kids living abroad.



Nearly 10 thousand children from Ukraine have been adopted by
American parents in the United Sates.

However, Ukraine officials say only 30 percent of those families
report on the living condition of their adopted children.



Local NGO's assure that Ukraine needs to ratify the
83-member-states Hague Convention on adoption to ensure proper
monitoring over such families.



Ukraine's Parliament has delayed the ratification of the
convention for several times. Some analysts believe the
convention does not meet the interests of Ukraine's orphans but
rather favors children trafficking and legitimates international
agencies that make money from organizing child adoptions.
However, Ukraine's NGOs take issues with that stand.



The state still do not have an accurate mechanism to exert
control over the condition of Ukrainian children adopted by
foreign families. At the same time national adoption and social
care remains a priority for the country.



Some link it up with the Russian Dima Yakovlev Law, which banned
US citizens from adopting Russian children. In Ukraine the
adoption process should not turn into a political bargaining
chip. That was the tragic death of a Ukrainian boy that pushed
the state to control international adoption more precisely.



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Wednesday, April 10, 2013

FAS Diagnosis in Ukrainian Adoptive Children Should be Left To Professionals

FAS is a major cause of concern, but when you read the list of
"symptoms or indicators" you can easily diagnose every child and
adult with FAS. I love this disclaimer. It is so true!



Diagnosing Fetal Alcohol Syndrome should be left to professionals
because there are many other factors that can contribute to the
look of a child that have nothing to do with a child having FAS.

For example, children who are adopted out of environments such as
orphanages where there is severe neglect and/or malnutrition may
be very small and have measurements that fall below the 10th
percentile. A child's heritage may cause distinct facial
features such as a flat midface or small and slanted eyes. There
are other syndromes that cause a child to have similar features
to FAS but they are not related to FAS in any way. Children
often lose their philtrim and their upper lip gets very thin when
they smile. How many children do we all know that have big
"cheesy" smiles? They may not have FAS, they may just be
happy!



If you are concerned that your child or potential adoptive child
may have Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, you should consult with a
specialist. There are many resources available to help you to
locate a professional in your area. This is not a diagnosis that
should be taken lightly or done in haste. This is definitely not
a diagnosis that should be made by a layperson.



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Tuesday, April 9, 2013

The Remarkable History of Alexander Nevsky Cathedral in Yalta, Ukraine


Alexander Nevsky Cathedral in Yalta, Ukraine


title="Yalta">Yalta citizens decided to construct a new
cathedral to commemorate the death of Emperor Alexander II, who
died when a bomb exploded at his feet. Alexander III approved
of this decision. The construction committee that was founded
in 1890 was presided by a scientists, local history specialist
and engineer A. Berthier-Delagard.

The first project, which was designed by an engineer K.
Ashleyman in 1889, was declined. The cathedral was instead
designed by N. Krasnov and P. Terebnyov. The foundation was
officialy laid on March 1, 1891. The first stone in the
foundation was placed by Empress Maria Fyodorovna. She also was
the one who donated a considerable amount of money to the
construction. The construction went on for 3 years, and money
was collected everywhere.

The cathedral was built in Old Russian style. It is decorated
with numerous ornate elements: portals, pilasters, hearts, and
reliquaries. The cathedral is two-tiered and has open
galleries. Inside walls are painted into white and pink shades,
which make it light and jolly. Icons were manufactured in
Vladimir Province, and eleven gilded domes were produced in
Moscow. The interior of the two altar church was created by
winners of the national contest, which included architect S.
Kroshechkin and an artist from Kiev I. Murashko, who completed
the iconostasis. Fresco painting outside the church was created
by students of Antonio Salviati, an artist from Venice. In
December of 1902 Alexander Nevsky Cathedral was consecrated.

Alexander Nevsky Cathedral helped Yalta citizens to go through
the most gruesome years of the city history, including the
revolution and wars. During the shootings of 1918 Yalta
citizens hid in the cathedral. In 1938 the cathedral was shut
down, and the domes were remolded. A sport club was founded
there instead. Only in 1945 church service was restored and is
working until nowadays. The building of parochial school, which
was used as Teacher's House, was given back to the church.

In 2002 Yalta entrepreneurs and citizens collected money to
gild the domes. Paintings and the iconostasis were also
restored.

Nowadays Alexander Nevsky Cathedral, which stands at the foot
of a short Darsan hill, conducts church services every day.
Since 1995 until present days there is a secondary school at
the church, and more than 100 pupils study there.

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, Yalta, Sadovaya street, 2.

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Why Has Ukrainian Adoption Not Increased After Russia Banned US Adoptions?

So why has Ukraine not seen an increase in international
adoptions?



Ukraine has announce that the country has not seen the
anticipated increase in foreign adoptions it hoped to have after
Russian has closed its adoption program to Americans. The small
number of adoptions so far this year is fairly shocking. Only 167
children were adopted internationally and about 2000 adopted by
Ukrainian families. Given Ukraine has over 80,000 orphans, this
is sad news.



So why is this the case? I think Russia's banning US parents from
adopting and it general hostile stance against the US has wrongly
spilled over into neighboring countries like Ukraine. Ukraine
still needs greater attention, visibility and awareness as a
separate and unique country and culture. Having been long
dominated by Russia, it is important that Americans and all
nations realize the strong and proud differences between Russia
and Ukraine. First and foremost, Ukraine's refusal to politicize
their children.



As proud adoptive parents of Ukrainian children, part of our
responsibility should be to spread the word about Ukraine and its
adoption program. Ukraine is not Russia!

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Thursday, April 4, 2013

Ukraine Tracks the Fate of Ukrainian Children Adopted Abroad



Right now the head of the Ukrainian adoption system is in
the US. From this article written by the Ukrainian press he
is concerned with the low rate of compliance in filing
legally necessary updates to the Ukrainian Consulates in
the US (around 30%), the low rate of updating residence
location when an adoptive family moves, and readoptions in
the US without the approval of the necessary Ukrainian
authoritities.

All adoptive parents need to be better at getting our
reports in on time. This is an essential componant of
ensuring the Ukrainian government that our children are
thriving. I know none of us ever plans to miss a year,
things just are crazy busy, but this is our legal
obligation and we must live up to it.

Another important thing this article highlights is the
great success of Ukrainian adoption outreach and education
in lowering the number of children without parents.
Compared with Russia, Ukraine has found a way to
successfully build families, not just get orphaned children
out of orphanages. In Ukraine the number of Ukrainian
parents that returned adopted children to orphanages was
nearly zero, while in Russia it was over 8000 - nearly as
many as were adopted. The same is true for international
adoptions in Ukraine. Non-Ukrainians able to adopt children
5 older who have been in the national registry system for
over a year and younger children who have been classified
as with a special health need by the Ukraine. As with
Ukrainian adoptions, these international adoptions from
Ukraine are extremelly successful in building strong
permenant families. Kudos Ukraine!


The thing that is most difficult in this article is the
vast number of parentless children in Ukraine. There are
still 94,000 too many children without families.



by www.WNU-Ukraine.com



Kyiv, April 2, 2013. On April 1-4, 2013, Yuriy
Pavlenko, Children's Ombudsman under the President of
Ukraine, is visiting the U.S. to monitor that the rights of
the Ukrainian children adopted abroad are observed. The
North American country is one of the top countries that
adopt Ukrainian children, others being Italy, Spain,
France, and Israel.

Nearly every other child adopted from Ukraine by foreign
parents lives in the USA, said Pavlenko during his visit to
the States. The state official will examine the work of
Ukrainian consulates in the U.S. regarding their
supervision of the rights of adopted children. Pavlenko
plans to meet American state officials who deal with
children's rights and adoption and, most importantly, will
visit the families that adopted children from Ukraine.

According to Pavlenko, there are several issues he is
planning to address during his visit - untimely reporting
by adoptive parents to Ukrainian diplomatic institutions in
the country, delays in updating adopted children records at
consulates, including changes of residence of the families.
He will also pay attention to the cases of unreported
readoption of children within the U.S. (without a
permission of the responsible institution in Ukraine).

Foreigners adopted 700 children from Ukraine throughout
2012, stated Yuriy Pavlenko in December 2012. Ukrainian
citizens adopted about 2,000 kids. Some 80 percent of
Ukrainian children without parents (nearly 96,000) are
currently raised by Ukrainian families.

Ukraine protects the right of a child to be adopted,
emphasized Pavlenko. Yet, national adoption was declared a
priority for the country. Changes in cultural environment
(i.e. changing the country of residence) can be stressful
for a child, reckons Liudmyla Volynets, head of the foreign
adoption at Ukraine's Child Ombudsman office. Thus,
Ukrainian children up for adoption abroad normally have
health issues.

In March 2013, Yuriy Pavlenko reported steady decrease in
the amount of children without parents in Ukraine. In 2008,
the amount of children without parents reached 103,500,
while by March 1, 2013, there were only 94,000 of such
children in Ukraine. A notable contribution to such
progress was the intensification of the work of family-like
foster care homes. Pavlenko noted that the reform of the
children without parents managing system had been one of
the most successful reforms in the eastern European country
over the last decade.



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