Tuesday, October 30, 2012
Consider Adoption!
Russia’s Children’s Rights Rep Calls For Ban On Foreign Adoptions: Consider Ukrainian Adoptions
Fueled by a new rise in nationalism and anti-American sentiment,
Russian adoption officials have been making lots of noise this
week calling for a halt to international adoptions of Russian
children and especially targeting American adoptions. In another
article, they state that all the supposed benefits of adoption
for the children are only made by those that are making money out
of the Russian adoption "business".
Take a read of an example of the articles in the press this week
in Russia.
By Maria Young for RIA Novosti
Russia's Children's Rights Ombudsman Pavel Astakhov called for
the ban Monday at a hearing before Russian lawmakers in Moscow on
US human rights issues
A call by a Russian child rights official to halt foreign
adoptions of Russian children, including in the United States,
would result in more harm to a greater number of children, said
US adoption experts Monday.
Russia's Children's Rights Ombudsman Pavel Astakhov called for
the ban Monday at a hearing before Russian lawmakers in Moscow on
US human rights issues.
Astakhov said the $1.5 billion adoption industry attracts
unscrupulous people and that concerns over the future of orphans
"are all lies."
Astakhov's call to ban foreign adoptions comes just as an
exhaustive,bilateral agreement between the US and Russiato
dramatically improve the adoption system is set to begin.
"Why we would just throw that away doesn't make any sense," said
Kathleen Strottman, executive director of the Congressional
Coalition on Adoption Institute (CCAI), a non-profit organization
that works with policy makers to remove barriers to safe,
successful adoptions.
"The two governments have been working in earnest for two years
to address the concerns. This is a very solid agreement that will
improve the outcomes for children," Strottman said.
The US-Russian adoption agreement, signed into law in Russia by
President Vladimir Putin and set to be phased in beginning
November 1, mandates a number of changes including more screening
and training for adoptive parents, and greater scrutiny
post-adoption.
The US and Russia put the agreement into place "to promote
stronger safeguards for adoptive children and parents in the
inter-country adoption process," said a US State Department
official not authorized to speak on the record.
The official added that it incorporates several fundamental
principles of the Hague Adoption Convention, which Russia has not
signed. That agreement signed by 89 countries, including the
United States, sets standards for international adoptions, and
puts safeguards into place to prevent the abduction, sale and
trafficking of children.
Russian officials claim at least 19 Russian children have died
following abuse by American foster parents since adoption of
Russian children in the US began in the early 1990s.
Since 1999, parents in the US have adopted more than 45,000
Russian children, including 962 children adopted last year.
The numbers are down in part because of more than a dozen
high-profile adoption abuse cases.
A father in the US, who left his adopted toddler son in a hot car
to die, was found not guilty of involuntary manslaughter, a
ruling that infuriated many Russian officials.
They were also outraged when an American woman decided the
7-year-old boy she had adopted had too many emotional problems
and put him on a plane back to Russia unaccompanied.
"That was the final straw that led to this agreement," said Chuck
Johnson, president of the National Council for Adoption, a
non-profit advocacy group that works to promote a culture of
adoption.
But he adds, with an estimated 700,000 children in orphanages or
other state-run care facilities, the idea that Russia can serve
the needs of its institutionalized children without an
international adoption process doesn't work.
"They have an orphan epidemic in their country," said Johnson.
"Inter-country adoption will never be the cure but it is a viable
solution, a viable option."
Strottman said an increasing number of Russian orphans have been
institutionalized in Russia for longer times, and more of them
have been exposed to alcohol and other substance abuse, factors
that lead to significant physical, emotional, social and
developmental delays, and make adoptions very challenging for
both parents and children.
"As we have learned more about the needs of these children who
are adopted, we are better able to prepare adoptive parents," she
said.
Adoption Services International unites loving US families with
Ukrainian children. We provide a unique combination of western
quality service (including a maximum guaranteed adoption fee),
personal adoption experience, affordable local cost and 20 years
Ukrainian experience.
If you or someone you love would like to expand your family,
provide a permanent home for a needy orphaned child, welcome a
sibling for an existing child or discover an alternative for
infertility treatments - contact us to learn more about Ukrainian
adoption, Adoption Services International can help.
www.adoptionservicesinternational.com
info@asi-adoption.com
908-444-0999
https://www.facebook.com/ASI.Adoption
Upcoming Events:
Ukrainian Adoption 101:
Conversation On International Adoption: Opportunity, Process,
Concerns and Questions
Monday, November 12, 2012 6:00-7:00PM
Location: Califon Book Store: 72 Main Street, Califon, New Jersey
07830
Ukrainian Adoption Information Meeting
Wednesday, November 28, 2012 7:00-8:00PM
Location: Wellness Rocks: 133 Rupell Road, Clinton, New Jersey
Monday, October 29, 2012
Consider Ukrainian Adoption: Change One Child's World
Consider Adoption: Make A Waiting Child's Wish Come True
Friday, October 26, 2012
Event: Free Adoption Presentation: Ukrainian Adoption 101 - Oct 12 @ 6:00pm
Califon Book Shop Hosts Adoption Presentations In Celebration of
National Adoption Awareness Month
Ukrainian Adoption 101:
Conversation On International Adoption: Opportunity, Process,
Concerns and Questions
With over 24,000 children available for international adoption,
Ukraine is the 5thgreatest source of adopted children in the US
in 2011, yet many parents considering adoption have never heard
about this European adoption program.
Have you or someone close to you considered international
adoption? Learn more by attending one of our free information
meetings. At the meeting, Susan Kibler, adoptive Mom and
Ukrainian Adoption Specialist will provide detailed information
about all Adoption Services International's Ukrainian adoption
program and services, as well as the unique challenges and
opportunities that international adoption provides for both
children and their prospective parents. We encourage an open,
judgment free question and answer session to answer any concerns
and inquiries.
Adoption Process: Stress vs. Ease
Coaching, What's In It For You? Everything!
We will discuss what coaching is and isn't. As someone who has
been adopted, I bring a unique perspective to the journey of
discovering who we are, where we belong and what each of us
desires to be.
The process of adoption can surface many emotions; fear of
rejection, excitement over the possibilities, and anxiety over
the process, and wondering if your child will accept this new
family unit. Decisions: fear or confidence based, who is making
that choice?
Join in a casual conversation on ways to prepare yourself for all
the thoughts, emotions, and "what if" scenarios you may
experience during the process of adoption and how coaching can
assist you along the way.
Details:
Join Us: Monday, November 12, 2012 6:00-8:00PM
Location: Califon Book Shop: 72 Main Street, Califon, New Jersey
07830 (www.califonbookshop.com)
To find out more visit us
at:www.adoptionservicesinternational.com
To register in
advance:info@asi-adoption.comorKathy@TheAdopteeCoach.com
Presenters:
Adoption Services International:
If you or someone you love would like to expand your family,
provide a permanent home for a needy orphaned child, welcome a
sibling for an existing child or discover an alternative for
infertility treatments - contact us to learn more about Ukrainian
adoption, Adoption Services International can help.
Adoption Services International unites loving US families with
Ukrainian children. We provide a unique combination of western
quality service (including a maximum guaranteed adoption fee),
personal adoption experience, affordable local cost and 20 years
Ukrainian experience.
www.adoptionservicesinternational.com
info@asi-adoption.com
908-444-0999
https://www.facebook.com/ASI.Adoption
The Adoptee Coach of Self Reflection Coaching LLC:
Adopted into a loving family as an infant, Kathy has traveled a
personal journey of courage and curiosity. When seeking a coach
that incorporates a love for life, reassurance and ability to
inspire others, and the passion to make this her life's work,
Kathy will partner with you through the process.
Through Kathy's own journey of self-discovery and experiences,
she has accessed areas that once were dark and unknown that now
are filled with light and clarity. She knows the fear, pain, and
guilt associated with having been adopted and wanting to know her
heritage. Kathy had been best described by her clients as someone
who radiates "pure love" and that shines through in her coaching.
You can:
· Overcome fear and doubt by becoming more open and trusting
· Make clear decisions
· Come to peace
· Transform relationships
· Set goals and design a life you love
Anyone with a strong desire and willingness to take action can
transform their lives.
Kathy Vervan Bugglin, CPC, ELI-MP:
www.TheAdopteeCoach.com
Kathy@TheAdopteeCoach.com
(908) 797-4893
http://www.facebook.com/TheAdopteeCoach
Look for Kathy in the soon to be released book "Ready, Aim, Soar"
on Amazon.
How to Know When a Ukrainian Child Is Not a Good Adoption Match for Your Family
When adopting from Ukraine you are given time to get to know and
bond with your perspective Ukrainian adopted child in their own
environment. What are the factors other than medical that you
should look for to make sure you are making a good match?
This article is written from a foster care perspective, but her
points are important considerations for all parents when
evaluating a referral.
As she says"This will be one of the toughest situations you'll
have to face. It is hard to say no to a child in need." However,
"Remember that there is a difference between caring for a child
and that child's well-being and making that child a lifelong
member of your forever family."
Enjoy, Susan
How to Know When a Child Is Not a Good Adoption Match for Your
Family
ByCarrie Craft, About.com Guide
Part of thefoster care adoption processis meeting the child after
theadoption matchby theadoption agency. The agency social workers
look at the strengths and needs of both the child and of
prospective adoptive parents to decide who would fit together the
best. Theprospective adoptive family are also allowed to read the
child's filesbefore making their final decision.
The first meeting could be held at an agency office or in your
home asrespite if you're a licensed foster parent.
You and your family may have a lot of different emotions and
concerns, especially if after the visit you're left with some
doubts about the adoption match. So how do you know if the child
is not a good fit?
· You find yourself and your family not enjoying time with
the child.
· Characteristics of the child or the child's personality
does not mesh well with your family.
· Overall, you find the child to be annoying or unpleasant
to be around.
· The child's overall morals or values are different from
your family's. This is beyond thechild needing to be taught
morals and values, but what the child finds important is vastly
different.
· Everyone in the family, including the child, feels like
they have to mold or change themselves in order to better fit or
get along.
· You feel that you are not able to meet the child's
needs, especiallybehavioral or emotional needs.
· Your other children do not feel good about the adoption
match. They seem to not be willing to interact much with the
child.
· You feel burdened with the decision and can't decide
what to do. You may feel full of doubts and fears. Remember that
there is a difference between caring for a child and that child's
well-being and making that child a lifelong member of your
forever family.
If you feel that the child is not a good adoption match, then
notify your adoption social worker right away. They need to know
so they cancontinuelooking for a family.
Don't let anyone guilt you into adopting a child that you or your
family does not feel is a good fit. This would not be fair for
you or the child.
People in your life who may put pressure on you to adopt a child
may include:
· The child's birth family- especially if you have been
fostering the child. They may feel comfortable with you and want
to know where their child will be living.
· Your church family- Those who spend limited time with
the child in short term environments may see a different side of
the child and not fully understand the child's needs. Remember
confidentiality; don't feel tempted to share or justify your
reasons for saying no to the adoption match.
· Friends and extended family- Again, they spend limited
time with the child, especially if you're doing respite visits or
short-term pre-placement visits. This is your forever and the
child's, don't adopt trying to please others.
· The child- This will be especially tough if you have
been foster parenting the child for a while. The child may feel
very safe and comfortable in your home, while you doubt the
forever commitment to the child. If the child is visiting with
you and your family after a possible adoption match, the child
may feel so lost or scared that they want to hold on to any
chance to have a forever family. Again, this is not a good reason
to adopt.
· You- Be aware that there are a ton of emotions involved
withtermination of parental rightsand with the possibility of
adopting a child. It is very tempting to want to adopt and parent
a child out of emotion. Is that ultimately what is best for the
child? Do you think the child will be able to tell if you aren't
fully in love with them? Yes! I believe that every child deserves
to have parents who think that the sun rises and sets with them.
Remember, there are other parents waiting for a child who may be
a perfectadoption matchfor this child. They may also find the
things you find annoying, cute.
This will be one of the toughest situations you'll have to face.
It is hard to say no to a child in need. Hopefully you have a
supportive social worker or therapist who will share your
decision with the child. Do not tell the child without permission
from the workers on the case. It may be more appropriate coming
from a worker, a therapist, or the child's foster parent.
If you or someone you love would like to expand your family,
provide a permanent home for a needy orphaned child, welcome a
sibling for an existing child or discover an alternative for
infertility treatments - contact us to learn more about Ukrainian
adoption, Adoption Services International can help.
Adoption Services International unites loving US families with
Ukrainian children. We provide a unique combination of western
quality service (including a maximum guaranteed adoption fee),
personal adoption experience, affordable local cost and 20 years
Ukrainian experience.
www.adoptionservicesinternational.com
info@asi-adoption.com
908-444-0999
https://www.facebook.com/ASI.Adoption
Upcoming Events:
Ukrainian Adoption 101:
Conversation On International Adoption: Opportunity, Process,
Concerns and Questions
Monday, November 12, 2012 6:00-7:00PM
Location: Califon Book Store: 72 Main Street, Califon, New Jersey
07830
Ukrainian Adoption Information Meeting
Wednesday, November 28, 2012 7:00-8:00PM
Location: Wellness Rocks: 133 Rupell Road, Clinton, New Jersey
Thursday, October 25, 2012
Ukrainian Adoption Update: SDA Will NOT Accept Dossier Submissions in Dec. & Half Jan.
IMPORTANT NOTICE:
The SDA in Kyiv will not be accepting new dossiers for
International Ukrainian Adoptions in December 2012 and the first
half of January 2013.
This should have no affect on your adoption if your dossiers have
been accepted. The SDA will not be accepting new submissions
during this time.
If you have any questions, please contact us at:
info@asi-adoption.com
If you or someone you love would like to expand your family,
provide a permanent home for a needy orphaned child, welcome a
sibling for an existing child or discover an alternative for
infertility treatments - contact us to learn more about Ukrainian
adoption, Adoption Services International can help.
Adoption Services International unites loving US families with
Ukrainian children. We provide a unique combination of western
quality service (including a maximum guaranteed adoption fee),
personal adoption experience, affordable local cost and 20 years
Ukrainian experience.
www.adoptionservicesinternational.com
info@asi-adoption.com
908-444-0999
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Adoption-in-Ukraine/168084499905366
Upcoming Events:
Ukrainian Adoption 101:
Conversation On International Adoption: Opportunity, Process,
Concerns and Questions
Monday, November 12, 2012 6:00-7:00PM
Location: Califon Book Store: 72 Main Street, Califon, New Jersey
07830
Ukrainian Adoption Information Meeting
Wednesday, November 28, 2012 7:00-8:00PM
Location: Wellness Rocks: 133 Rupell Road, Clinton, New Jersey
Wednesday, October 24, 2012
Event: Free Presentation: The Adoption Process: Stress vs. Ease - Nov 12 @ 6:00am
Coaching, What's In It For You? Everything!
We will discuss what coaching is and isn't. As someone who has
been adopted, I bring a unique perspective to the journey of
discovering who we are, where we belong and what each of us
desires to be.
The process of adoption can surface many emotions; fear of
rejection, excitement over the possibilities, and anxiety over
the process, and wondering if your child will accept this new
family unit. Decisions: fear or confidence based, who is making
that choice?
Join in a casual conversation on ways to prepare yourself for all
the thoughts, emotions, and "what if" scenarios you may
experience during the process of adoption and how coaching can
assist you along the way.
In Celebration of National Adoption Awareness Month
Join Us: Monday, November 12, 2012 6:00-8:00PM
Location: Califon Book Shop: 72 Main Street, Califon, New Jersey
07830 (www.califonbookshop.com)
To find out more visit us
at:www.adoptionservicesinternational.com
To register in
advance:info@asi-adoption.comorKathy@TheAdopteeCoach.com
The Adoptee Coach of Self Reflection Coaching LLC:
Adopted into a loving family as an infant, Kathy has traveled a
personal journey of courage and curiosity. When seeking a coach
that incorporates a love for life, reassurance and ability to
inspire others, and the passion to make this her life's work,
Kathy will partner with you through the process.
Through Kathy's own journey of self-discovery and experiences,
she has accessed areas that once were dark and unknown that now
are filled with light and clarity. She knows the fear, pain, and
guilt associated with having been adopted and wanting to know her
heritage. Kathy had been best described by her clients as someone
who radiates "pure love" and that shines through in her coaching.
You can:
· Overcome fear and doubt by becoming more open and trusting
· Make clear decisions
· Come to peace
· Transform relationships
· Set goals and design a life you love
Anyone with a strong desire and willingness to take action can
transform their lives.
Kathy Vervan Bugglin, CPC, ELI-MP:
www.TheAdopteeCoach.com
Kathy@TheAdopteeCoach.com
(908) 797-4893
http://www.facebook.com/TheAdopteeCoach
Thursday, October 18, 2012
The Myth and Reality of Older Adoptive Parents - Ukrainian Adoption Welcomes Older Couples
adoption myths and the truth. Ukrainian Adoption is open to older
parents with no upper age limit.
Myth
No person over 55 can provide a healthy and loving environment
for an adopted child.
Reality
This belief is held, erroneously, by 63% of Americans. In truth,
almost one in four adopted children lives happily with an
adoptive parent 55 years or older.
If you or someone you love would like to expand your family,
provide a permanent home for a needy orphaned child, welcome a
sibling for an existing child or discover an alternative for
infertility treatments - contact us to learn more about Ukrainian
adoption, Adoption Services International can help.
Adoption Services International unites loving US families with
Ukrainian children. We provide a unique combination of western
quality service (including a maximum guaranteed adoption fee),
personal adoption experience, affordable local cost and 20 years
Ukrainian experience.
www.adoptionservicesinternational.com
info@asi-adoption.com
908-444-0999
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Adoption-in-Ukraine/168084499905366
Upcoming Events:
Ukrainian Adoption 101:
Conversation On International Adoption: Opportunity, Process, Concerns and Questions
Monday, November 12, 2012 6:00-7:00PM
Location: Califon Book Store: 72 Main Street, Califon, New Jersey
07830
Ukrainian Adoption Information Meeting
Wednesday, November 28, 2012 7:00-8:00PM
Location: Wellness Rocks: 133 Rupell Road, Clinton, New Jersey

Annual Ukrainian Festival in Utica NY Oct. 19-2: Perfect For Adoptive Ukrainian Families
Volodymyr Ukrainian Catholic Church in Utica, New York is the
place to go.
The annual Ukrainian Festival got underway Friday afternoon.
Festival goers can check out some arts and crafts from the
country, take part in cultural exhibits, and of course, taste
some food.Organizers say they host the festival to share their
heritage with their neighbors.
"We have a small parish, a small community, but it's a strong
community. A lot of hard working people, and we just try to
retain and showcase our culture," said festival organizer Zyn
Jackiw.
The festival continues Saturday from noon to 9 p.m. at the church
in Utica.
If you or someone you love would like to expand your family,
provide a permanent home for a needy orphaned child, welcome a
sibling for an existing child or discover an alternative for
infertility treatments - contact us to learn more about Ukrainian
adoption, Adoption Services International can help.
Adoption Services International unites loving US families with
Ukrainian children. We provide a unique combination of western
quality service (including a maximum guaranteed adoption fee),
personal adoption experience, affordable local cost and 20 years
Ukrainian experience.
www.adoptionservicesinternational.com
info@asi-adoption.com
908-444-0999
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Adoption-in-Ukraine/168084499905366
Upcoming Events:
Ukrainian Adoption 101:
Conversation On International Adoption: Opportunity, Process,
Concerns and Questions
Monday, November 12, 2012 6:00-7:00PM
Location: Califon Book Store: 72 Main Street, Califon, New Jersey
07830
Ukrainian Adoption Information Meeting
Wednesday, November 28, 2012 7:00-8:00PM
Location: Wellness Rocks: 133 Rupell Road, Clinton, New Jersey
